Name it, Change it

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What’s in a name?

If you have something in your life you want to change, giving it a name is a powerful way to start.

Naming a problem helps us to identify the situation and to accept it.

For example, if you want to make get away from an all-consuming job and find work that creates better balance, you might call this “Project Freedom”.

This sums up the whole process in one neat parcel and keeps the motivation for change front and centre.

I thought I’d share an example of how by naming a problem, I’ve been able to shake off one of my worst habits.

“Stop Being an Arse”

Sometimes it takes the person who knows you best to really hit the nail on the head.

It all happened so suddenly, on the way home from a lovely vacation.

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The Simple Path to Happiness

There are plenty of reasons for you to be happy right now.. if you recognize these conditions you can stop running rignt now” Thich Nhat Hahn.

Sometimes the simplest ideas are the best.

In this wonderful video, the Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hahn explains how by simply being more mindful and present we can find happiness right now.

He notes that becoming more aware of the world around us can make us happier:

To experience the blue sky above your head is to come in contact with one of the wonders of life

The beauty of this approach is that there is no need to strive and struggle for a promise of a better future.  Living in each moment we can find huge satisfaction even in the most mundane tasks…

If you know the art of mindfulness, washing dishes can be a wonderful experience

Please enjoy the video

Over to you

What simple things do you appreciate?

How do you find contentment?

What happens when you stop struggling so hard?

Two simple steps to change for good

Lord grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

The courage to change the things I can, and

The wisdom to know the difference” – St. Francis of Assisi

Have you ever spent hours regretting something you can do nothing about?

Have you ever done nothing about a situation that is making you miserable?

St Francis’ Maxim captures the dilemma perfectly – when to act and when to move on.

When we’re faced with any difficult situation, a great place to start is always – what can I change and what must I accept?  Cracking this helps us be a little bit wiser.

Acceptance

Some things we simply have to accept.

Sadly (and trust me I’ve tried), we can’t control the people and world around us.  Sh!t happens.

Sometimes it is seems totally illogical and unfair.  Terrible things befall good people.

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Finding your Mojo

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When is the last time your mojo was really working?

That beautiful moment when everything aligns and feel in harmony.  When everything makes sense and the world makes perfect sense.

I know for me, it was last week – the first time for a fair while I felt healthy, happy and together.  Finally recovered from the drain of my car crash, I felt my energy had come back.

It’s an amazing feeling when everything seems to fall naturally into place and the people you meet definitely get infected by your Mojo.

It also made me realize that Mojo is a pretty elusive concept – it can come and go like a willow the wisp.  It’s hard to define what Mojo is all about.

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Why I’m looking forward to my mid-life crisis

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Are you looking forward to your mid-life crisis?

The man in the Porsche pulled into the car-park, and leapt out in his one-piece lycra triathlon suit.
He whipped his carbon-fibre bicycle weighing less than a small rodent off the back, pulled down his Oakleys and waddled to the start line.
Everyone around was thinking the same thing– mid-life crisis.

This is real

According to a survey published this week by the charity Relate, the mid-life crisis is more common than ever.

Interestingly, it is also coming earlier in life – now many people in their early to mid-30s are reportedly going through a crisis.

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